Red flags when dating a girl
(That is until he stopped sleeping with me a year or 2 into the relationship and kept telling me he loved me and I was being overly sensitive and paranoid) 5. Taking you to mutual friends of his ex’s, (if possible he will use you are a pawn to hurt his ex.) Quickly takes you to meet the family.Appears to make friends easily, but doesn’t have any long time friends. Plasters pictures of the two of you all over his Facebook (he knows his ex will be checking his FB and he wants twist the knife in her heart).He will reveal a few of his indiscretions and weaknesses so you feel safe being open and honest with him.He wants to get to know you alright, just not for the reason you think.Shortly after I made the call he wanted to drive to the store, but once we were on the road he drove directly to his staff party making it sound like he was surprised the roads weren’t as bad as he thought and we might as well drop by his staff party seeing as we were out anyway.(I was not impressed; I was in jeans because I hadn’t gotten my party clothes on or any makeup, because I wasn’t supposed to be going to a party!
In his past relationships, at work, even with his family he is always doing all the work, the only one putting in an effort, he is holding the company together or the relationship. Changes jobs many times, gets bored easily, accused of stealing, someone at work is jealous of him and lying about him. Once you lose your job you are dependent on him and it is so much harder to get away. Very early in the relationship he talks in “we” terms, saying things like are “we” going to take the car or the truck (not your car or mine), or let’s go back to “our” place, subtle little things that make you a “couple”.
For example he would say he was really close friends with someone but when I met them they seemed to barely know him.
Then we went to his family for New Years Eve, (he had told me he was adopted and had just met his biological family a few years earlier and moved from Sask.
I remember our 3rd date and I walked through the door at his place and he immediately tried to get me into bed, I almost walked out but I didn’t listen to my “gut” and stayed and we did make love. He might even tearfully admit to hitting his ex, but once again it will be tearfully and he was driven to it by her psychotic rages. He is so good-natured you can’t imagine him getting angry about anything and he will tell you how much he hates conflict.
In the beginning he was highly sexual, wanting sex often, 2-3 times a day everyday. They are either between jobs or just started a new job and quite possibly new to town. (Of course his ex was always causing conflict, she bitched at him incessantly about small stuff and brought up things from the past and that is what drove him away, he is planting the seed; he might as well come right out and say; don’t confront me on anything I do because I hate conflict and I will leave you or hit you and some day down the road he will accuse you of being “just like the rest of them”) 16.
In his past relationships they would roll over and go to sleep but with you it is different.