Dating for widows and widowers
I rushed into dating far too quickly after my husband George died.I tried dating a couple of guys only a few months after his death. ” Haven’t we all heard this from well-intentioned people who are uncomfortable because we’re alone.This is a hard one because you might not know until you try.I tried dating a nice Jewish yogi lawyer (just like me) four months after losing George. Everything we did reminded me of something George and I had done or eaten or seen or hadn’t had the chance to do because his life had been cut short. I also had a lot of guilt over having been George’s caregiver.But I really wanted to be on my own and meet different kinds of people for awhile.I unnecessarily confused a few serious guys who wanted exclusive relationships, One fellow wrote me that after he lost his wife, he wanted a friend with benefits only. Another gentleman said he wants a girlfriend, but still wants to live separately. It helps to have a goal before shopping in the human mall of online dating.
Embrace the older, wiser you and date with the confidence that you are surrounded by people just like you; all Love Begins At’s members will either understand your circumstances or have had a similar experience of their own.But I was still too wounded and vulnerable, making me needy.If my date cancelled or wasn’t available, I was plunged into despair.I severely underestimated the toll of having been George’s caregiver.